I must say that the question is one a Christian should not ask if he or she is thinking about marriage. Yes, it is true. The world can do it but for us is a no. We do not consider marriage by the amount of love received from the opposite gender, the basis for a relationship must begin with God.
If love is the only parameter we use as metres to measure who to marry, the majority of us if not all we miss it in marriage because the devil’s children are the ones who know how to beguiled men with love the most. They knew what they want, so, they will master their scripts and act them perfectly.
They know are to focus on you and spoil you with care.
They know how to give you their attention and spoil you with time.
They know how to give gifts
They know how to say sorry
They know how to act perfect and blameless.
That is why it doesn’t matter who seems to love and cater for us. When it comes to marriage, we don’t move or act on those things first.
We go back to God!
Marriage is meant for continuity of purpose and purpose is God.
Hence who to marry must come from God.
Not via who is lavishing love on us.
It will be a great disaster to have God as your purpose and marry from the devil. Purpose has divided.
So, the first step to marriage is not who love and who do not, it is about you as a god getting married to another god.
The Bible says it clearly
He who finds a wife
Finds favour.
A wife is a reward from God to a god.
It is like God giving more of himself to you
Marriage makes us whole (MAN)
At initial we are either male or female
But when we get married we become one
That is, we become MAN.
Such a mystery is not a testament of who love or not
It is about God giving you more.
It is the reward of a father to his child.
But then because God is love, whoever he gives you must love you. A part of God-given you cannot be acting like the devil. If he or she is from God he or she must have the attribute of a deity.
How then do I know a lady love me?
1. She reveals her secret to you: the proof of love is that it reveals secret. A person who keeps secrets from you did not love you. Love opens up. When God wants to show you how much he loves you he reveals things to you.
2. Crave your presence: when there is love, you become conscious of the person. You want to see him, you want to hear him, you want to talk to him. When God loves a man, he won’t only wait for the man to come to him, he also comes to the man as we read in Genesis. There are times you do go out and meet God at home waiting for you at your meeting place even though he went out with you.
Love yearns for who or what is loved.
3. Forgives: where there is love, it indulges excesses. It covered a multitude of sins. If a lady loves you, the proof is in forgiveness. Just the way the father often do for his beloved.
4. Pay attention to your needs: where there is love, the lady pays attention to your needs. She is concerned about your happiness and displeased with anything that makes you sad. As our father always bear our infirmity and always want our comfort. True love bears a burden.
5. She smiles with you: when there is love, joy is always present. Two people in love, smile a lot.
Just the way we enjoy the smile of the Father.
Voice Opeyemi